Joab: the kick you in the pants and tell it like it is friend. King David has just defeated Absalom, his son. It's the ultimate bittersweet moment. He gets the kingdom back and wins a great victory and his son dies. David weeps and mourns for Absalom - as he should. But in doing so David disses all of the men who risked and gave their lives on his behalf. Joab sees this and gives David the whatfor for the sake of those men who are now upset and confused by David's behavior. Do you have a friend who has the guts and perceptivity to kick you in the butt when you've wronged someone?
Mephisbosheth: the "I was so worried about you I didn't shower or shave for weeks" friend. Can you imagine having a friend so in love with you that when he or she knows times are bad for you they literally forget about themselves and focus exclusively on you?
Barzillai: the selfless friend. Barzillai is 80 years old. He wins the right to accompany David back and live in his court. Being so old he realizes that this blessing will be short lived at best - he can't take full advantage of it. He decides to ask David if his friend Chimham can take his place. WOW! In our individualistic society such acts of self denial and blessing are almost unheard of. This would be like a friend of yours getting tickets to game 7 of the Cup finals and realizing he can only go for two periods and instead of wasting the last period he gives the tickets to you - center ice, 3rd row (so the bench doesn't block your view).
Now comes the tough question: If I don't have people like this in my life, why not? How do I need to change to acquire such valuable relationships? It probably has something to do with becoming this sort of friend first.
I'd never be friends with someone whose name I can't pronounce (see Mephisbosheth).
ReplyDeleteFlipping it to the other side: These are the kinds of friends we should aspire to BE too!
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